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Monday, September 8, 2008

67- FRIENDS.......

I always go back to and begin with the scene near the end in Fried Green Tomatoes where Evelyn finds Ninny sitting on her suitcase outside where her home used to be. "Evelyn, someone stole my house...you know what I think is the most important thing in life is?...friends!...."
The first observation? There are so many forms of friendship to consider....more to come.
1) The "non-backstabber" totally loyal friend---when you find someone like this, cherish their
friendship to the fullest extent...they, no matter what, will stand by you through thin and
thick in return.
2) "Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light" (Helen Keller).
Getting to the point of preparing and learning to creatively write many styles has been a planned and long journey. One of my inspirations early on was to view a play ("The Miracle Worker") on Broadway about Helen Keller's life and grow to respect her as a national treasure.
3) I know, right now, many university coeds who are developing friendships that will endure all of their lives. They are learning to depend upon each other in close settings, especially when temporarily down from grades or 'love' problems or back home pressures. Their new college friends will be there, they're learning, listening, not judging.
4) LISTENING...the value of any friend often hinges upon someone who will be quiet and simply listen to them....
5) "My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me." (Henry Ford)...and vice versa.
6) Yes, it seems to be significantly valued when friends evolve into, with time, two who deeply love, not infatuation, each other...BUT the process takes time! Movies and TV have falsely led too many young persons and any agers to "believe" that friendship can be instantaneous, like instant oatmeal or instant coffee. The process takes work and care and giving.
7) Once again, the concept of "I'm in like with you" has signicificance as a step to a deeper friendship..."I'm in like with you as a friend."
8) Private moments...good friends keep what is shared in the kitchen in the kitchen.
9) My paternal grandparents, Willie and Carl, were friends, too!
10) Your pets can be honored friends, without reservations!
11) Nature can be a friend to some...Native Americans understood that concept. As that Philosopher major, this guy is in sync with the natural world: sitting on a hill in the countryside as the sun sets during summer...trout fishing in a gorge...exploring a 'wild' cave with utter quietness...gazing about an ancient bank barn, with the sunlight filtering through weathered siding cracks...wading along the ocean edge early in the morning...standing above 'Custer's Last Stand' in Wyoming...the natural world is my friend, too!
12) Holding hands while taking a walk, with leaves falling a bit...sweaters...conversations! Thinking back...I believe that the neatest "picture memory" for me is "seeing" an older couple doing just that one fall...friends and sweeties!
13) A true friend is someone YOU simply LIKE, from inside...you'll know it when you feel it!
14) Once saw two little girlfriends sitting outside an ice cream parlor on a curb...one girl had an ice cream cone, the other didn't...BUT, the one with the cone looked over and then moved her hand, and cone, to the other friend who took a lick...back and forth, forth and back...since it was warm, the ice cream began to run down both faces and all over their hands...and arms...and legs....was, uh, chocolate! Who cared!!

1 comment:

sam bowyer said...

and then a poem statement that a friend wrote once and I have used a lot....friends, like a mac truck come speeding by you with a thunder..and pass by faintly again with only stirred up dust left behind...