34- THE FINE ART OF BODY LANGUAGE...102!

OK, the most honest part of your body is...? As an introduction, be careful when you watch one or three of the "experts" on national TV programs who have a habit of leading you to believe that body language is so simple to learn the basics and supposedly think you will understand immediately "signs' to interpret as if they, "experts", have all of the correct answers.
Sorry! They don't have all of the necessary answers that you need to think that you are an expert. What they do have are hasty generalizations. Every person is different! How can one say that if a person crosses their arms or legs that it MEANS that every time that they are crossing you out, being negative? I cross my legs when they are tired...I cross my arms at times because it is comfortable...period!
If a person does not look "you in the eye"? Some persons have a habit of thinking and visualizing when in a good conversation. To accuse someone of not being honest if they don't always stare you in the eyes, is fallacious. Drumming on a table when talking...maybe a person thinks better simpy by drumming on a table!
Those 'experts" paid a tidy sum on TV are often themselves acting out what THEY think is an answer, often a hasty generalization. Remember, not every one can be neatly placed into a slot like others.
And what ARE some secrets to understanding body language of those around you? Practice being a keen observer...a really keen observer of persons just around you. Your intelligent eyes, coupled with your learned practical smarts, will help you to quicker in learning the fine art of body language...really.
You will learn to anticipate, "see" when someone likes you...when someone is jerking you around. At the libraries, where I often go to research and ask for information at the main desk, I can sense, from experience, when the person behind the counter is not really interested in helping me but getting back to their computer. And I can sense right away when the service manager at my car dealership, Hudgin's Chevrolet, today, was genuinely interested in making sure that my car was repaired correctly...he was.
Speaking softly and slowly often hints that the person you're attracted to and are close to appreciates you for more than just a common flirt. If you have the opportunity, pause and observe two persons dining. There are more and more outdoor dining areas in the summer in my historic town of Williamsburg. Two diners, if in sync, will begin to MIRROR each other's actions, like picking up a glass at the same time...hand motions in sync.
I created, researched and taught, for some time, body language classes around Virginia and simply practiced observing. Sooooo, if you want to learn to understand body language well, observe. Your knowledge will greatly improve your life at work and with friends and family.
"Ma'am, when you went the extra mile today and bagged my groceries at Ukrop's with a double bag, your body language told me that you were someone who cared, internally, about whatever you do!"
Don't forget...you simply cannot place each and every person into a neat slot and learn based on groups of others. Each person is an individual. Hey, the art of body language is just that...an art! OBSERVE!!
And what is the most honest part of your body?....your feet! Most feel that feet cannot hide any emotions...as a matter of face, most feel that feet are actually not attractive...disagree?